Binocular Vision

I hate looking people in the eyes. I wish I could just pick one. Sometimes when I'm talking to someone I start thinking about how I'm looking at them, trying to look them in the eyes. It's too hard to watch both eyes--you have to kind of go out of focus like you were looking at one of those 3D posters where you look for the hidden image. So I look at one eye, and then the other. I wonder if they can tell that I'm only looking at one eye, so I shift to the space between the eyes. By now I've usually lost track of what is being said, caught up in my own neurosis.

If you think about the word focus, it is defined as a central point, which creates the dilemma of looking somebody in the eyes. If the eyes were located at the mid-line, it wouldn't be a problem. I think this is part of the reason why we are naturally drawn to cleavage--it's in the middle. It forms one line for the eyes to focus on. It's nature's way of simplifying the task of focusing. Of course this is often highly inappropriate, so you try extra hard to look into the eyes, and avoid the cleavage, taking you further away from the actual topic of conversation. Even without the temptation of cleavage, the eyes present enough of a problem on their own.

I don't know if anybody else has this problem, but I expect there will be at least a couple of people that develop this problem after reading this...

Good luck.

Cheers.